Sometimes evenings can be the worst time of day for moms…we have
dinner to prepare, dishes to wash, homework to help with, sports
practice or music lessons to drive the kids to, laundry to finish…and
the list can go on and on.
With so much to accomplish, we can
feel frazzled, with little time to spend on the things that matter most,
but our nights don’t have to be this way.
Trying To Do To Much:
I’m SO guilty of this! There is so much I want to do…read a good
book, spend time with the kids, spend time with my husband, watch my
favorite TV shows, go out with my girlfriends, volunteer at church,
check out my favorite blogs, catch up with friends on Facebook…the list
could go on…but it’s unrealistic to get all of it done, no matter how
much I multi-task or try to sneak a minute here or there.
If my
most important goals are to cultivate important relationships with my
family and make a comfortable and welcoming home for them to be in, then
I must choose to do those activities that work toward these goals on
most nights and purposefully accomplish them.
That means that I
need to pare down my activities that take me outside the home (or take
my attention outside the home) at night on a regular basis so that I can
be fully present with my loved ones.
Not Having A Plan:
One of the things that I think is so helpful in taking most of the stress out of each evening is to have a plan for dinner.
Knowing
what I’m going to make each night, and having the ingredients on hand
because I’ve done my shopping in advance, lets me get dinner on the
table quickly and helps me avoid the frazzled “what’s for dinner???”
mood at 5 p.m.
Not Being Honest About Your Bad Habits:
Let’s face it: sometimes checking social media is way more fun than reading your kids that same picture book for the 50th time.
We
all think that we’re only spending a few minutes checking out friends’
posts on Facebook or searching for decorating projects on Pinterest, but
have you ever stopped to actually measure how much time you spend
looking at your phone?
I recently realized that I was spending quite a bit of time in the evenings checking all my social media.
After I cleaned up the kitchen for the night, I would innocently pick up my phone and start browsing.
Before
I knew it, 45 minutes had passed and I had missed a chance to read to
my kids before their bedtime…when one of my goals this year was to read
aloud to the kids at least once a day.
Maybe your bad habit isn’t
social media…maybe you’re drinking too much coffee and can’t get to
sleep at a decent hour, so you are tired the next day.
Whatever it is, it’s a good idea to take a minute and think about how your bad habits might be affecting your evenings.
Not Going to Bed Early Enough
Hey, I get it…sometimes staying up late after the kids go to bed may
be the only time you get to be by yourself or to spend time with your
husband.
It’s tempting to stay up late to do something by yourself, but are you taking away from the time your body needs for sleep?
I
usually try to get to sleep by 10 or 10:30, but on those nights when
Downtown Abbey and The Good Wife are on at the same time and I just
can’t wait until tomorrow to watch them, or when I’ve had a particularly
stressful day and all I want to do is sit and talk with my husband, I
suffer the next day because I haven’t gotten enough sleep.
My family suffers too…from my grumpy attitude. And that’s not how I want to be with my husband or my kids.
Not Taking Care of Yourself:
Are you eating too much sugar, not getting enough exercise, not
getting enough sleep (see #4!), or otherwise neglecting yourself?
When
you aren’t planning for and eating healthy meals, eating too much junk
food, or failing to get much-needed exercise, it takes a toll on your
health.
As
a mom, you are the center of your family’s universe. Keeping yourself
healthy and physically strong is a gift to yourself and your family, so
don’t feel that taking time to sleep or go for a walk is selfish.
What is the thing you struggle with the most in the evenings?
